I have a saying about myself: “I’m just an ordinary girl who does extraordinary things.”
I don’t take compliments well. Some might say I’m really bad at taking compliments lol. I learned in my family of origin that I should NOT stand out; if I was good at something I was “better” than another family member, and there were consequences. If I was bad at something, I was “worse” than others and there were consequences for that, too.
As I continued my healing journey in my 30s and 40s, I learned that I’m really not competitive by nature. I’m only a little happier with myself when I take the lead, and perhaps win, and I’m happiest when I turn around and celebrate others and their accomplishments. This is how I am as a person, and it took a long time for me to discover that truth about myself.
I am not extraordinary. I’m wandering around dark rooms pressing my hands against the walls looking for the doors of enlightenment, just like everyone else. When I open one of those magical doors, I yell at everyone else in the room: “Look!” But that doesn’t make me extraordinary.
I am who I am. I do what I do. Isn’t that the best way to be, anyway?
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I am an ordinary Gurl who LOVES animals, truth-tells, stands up in resistance to injustice, laughs in an “unladylike manner” with relish, cherishes WATER, and honors our Common Mother Earth and her creatures of many species.
See? It’s amazing to be ordinary! š
I learned that normal was a standard set by someone else. When I learned I could set my own bar and reach a new standard of living, that’s when I learned to slowly say thank you to a compliment and allow myself to own it. What a blessing and Adventure this life is now! I love this story. You’re an interesting person whom I love to communicate with because your interests help me learn new ways that I’ve never done something. Thankyou