Healing From Sexual Violence
My husband Jake writes, How many of you value Security? Have you ever considered Security as a value? Have you ever noticed that you actually feel “security” in your body? Security is a survival emotion and usually people feel it in the bottom 3 energy centers (some people call them …
My husband Jake writes, My wife asked me the other day about the concept of Self-Sabotage because I used to be a 5th degree black belt on the subject. Throughout my whole life, I had goals. I even took the correct steps to reach those goals. I knew that I …
Checking Out for Secondary Survivors is second to anger in how we attempt to deal with the sexual violence that has happened to our loved ones. This is part of our brain’s automatic responses to protect ourselves. In the Fight/Flight/Freeze reactions, checking out is a “Flight” reaction. Our brains, as …
One of the ways a secondary survivor deals with the trauma of a loved one is the “Macho Man” syndrome. You know the one… “I am going to go kill the sick bastard!” When my husband Jake received the call from his now ex-wife that his mother’s husband had molested …