Healing From Sexual Violence
When it comes to “frequently asked questions” about the Beyond Brave Community, “What tools will I learn?” is one of the most important. You don’t want to hear the same old things you’ve tried before that haven’t worked. You don’t want complex, time-consuming tools that are hard to learn and …
When I think of the word “humility” I remember being a very little kid, holding out my arms so my safe grownup could carry me. My arms went around her neck and her arms cradled me, and I just simply rested in her power and didn’t have to be …
My husband Jake writes, How many of you value Security? Have you ever considered Security as a value? Have you ever noticed that you actually feel “security” in your body? Security is a survival emotion and usually people feel it in the bottom 3 energy centers (some people call them …
There are two reasons people can’t find the time to meditate: 1. They lead stressed out chaotic lives, and 2. They have a false belief that meditating requires magical peace and silent alone-ness BEFORE sitting down. If your life is chaotic, you will need to prioritize those 20 minutes with …
I read an interesting short article from Beth Tyson that got me thinking about how trauma survivors lose their tempers more often than they think they should. For the past several years, I only lose my temper every few months. This frequency is down from many times a day when …
Why are some people angry and destructive right now, and some people stubbornly happy and actually thriving? We are all going through the same social unrest, political chaos, and global pandemic, even if our individual circumstances are different from each other. I believe our responses to this traumatic time are …
Have you ever sat down on your break at work and felt like you were vibrating because everything today is going too fast? Have you ever lost your temper because you couldn’t handle one more demand from one more person? Have you ever wanted to escape from your life? If …
Sometimes, it seems like nobody understands, nobody listens, nobody is around when we need them. We get overwhelmed by grief and tears. If we did have someone there, we wouldn’t be able to talk anyway because the sadness is so big. So we cry until we stop crying and don’t …
I believe that self-kindness leads to self-compassion, which leads to self-acceptance. For people who’ve experienced the deeply personal trauma of sexual violence, it can be very, very hard to be kind to yourself, let alone being compassionate or accepting. Survivors often fall into traps of self-blame, self-pity and self-harming. We …
All creative people have a companion: The Critic. The Critic is that voice (sometimes quiet, often loud) that says we aren’t good enough. Creative people create all the time, not just when we are actively writing, drawing, quilting, woodworking, etc. Our brains can’t sit still, and we grab onto ideas …
